How Energy Vampires Keep You Tired, Fat!
By John McGran
Fortunately, Dr. Orloff has developed a silver bullet: self-defense techniques to help you fend off attacks and preserve your positive energy.
First step: recognize the many types of Energy Vampires. See if any of these dscriptions from a CNN interview sound familiar. And be sure to grab a copy of Positive Energy and check out all nine types.
The Sob Sister: She's a whiner. The world is against her. Someone else is always to blame for her unhappiness. This is the person who rehashes the same old points over and over again, and every solution you suggest is met with a reason why she can't do what you suggest.
The Blamer: Less benign than the Sob Sister, the Blamer is in attack mode. He berates, he guilt-trips and he's often verbally abusive. Where the Sob Sister washes you in negativity, the Blamer punches you with it. In this case, it's not the world's fault, it's your fault.
The Drama Queen: Starting every sentence with "Oh my God, you'll never guess what happened," the Drama Queen's life is one of extremes, good or bad. She goes from crisis to crisis feeding off of chaos. Whether she's breaking up with her boyfriend for the third time this week or fretting that the newly found spot on her arm is a sign of her imminent death, nothing just happens to this person, instead, it HAPPENS! She wears us out by serving up a concentrate of emotion.
The Constant Talker: A motor mouth. "He's only concerned with himself, his stories, his opinions, his jokes." He wears you down like "a relentlessly yipping Chihuahua who badly needs a walk."
The Go-for-the-Jugular Fiend: Envious, insecure or just competitive, this person won't hesitate to cut you down every chance he gets. He is an insult waiting to happen. The worst of all the energy vampires, this type of person should come with a warning label. "Beware. Excessive exposure can cause illnesses from chronic fatigue to depression."
Dr. Orloff lists the warning signs of negative energy as:
- You experience a sense of being demeaned, constricted or attacked.
- You intuitively feel unsafe, tenses or on guard.
- You sense prickly, off-putting vibes. You can't wait to get away from them.
- Your energy starts to fizzle. You may feel beleaguered or ill.
It's bad enough that these Energy vampires drain your energy. What's worse is that many of us resort to overeating in a subconscious, vain attempt to defend ourselves from this terrible negative energy that bombards us at work, home, school... anywhere!
So instead of feeling tired and fat all the time, take action. For starters, SET BOUNDARIES! Dr. Orloff urges you to limit the length and content of what you are willing to listen to. Before it gets too much, put a stop to it. It's your health and welfare we're talking about.
Besides, how many times can you listen to the same sob story from your gal pal or best buddy?
For other great strategies and for ways to find that lost energy without drugs, turn to Positive Energy. The book's subtitle is 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress & Fear into Vibrance, Strength & Love. And that's what you get from this eye-opening look at Energy Vampires and the power of positivity.
You can find out more about Energy Vampires and other fascinating subjects at drjudithorloff.com.
Dr. Orloff, fangs for the memories!