It's All About Her

by Joanne Kaufman
Good Housekeeping

…excerpt

Dealing with a diva

So what do you do when you have a drama queen in your life? If running as fast as you possibly can in the other direction isn't an option - and with someone like your boss, it's not recommended - try these tips from Judith Orloff, M.D., an assistant professor of psychiatry at UCLA.

1. Never ask a drama queen how she's feeling. She's bound to have a crisis brewing, so don't even go there. "Her antics can wipe you out," says Dr. Orloff. Especially with the drama queens you work with, keep your conversations as professional as possible, and send the message that your job is your top priority.

2. Set limits - then stick to them. When your friend calls to discuss the drama of the day, tell her you have only ten minutes to talk: "Say 'I'm sorry this is happening. I love you, and I know you're stressed. Here's what I think, but then I have to go,;" suggests Dr. Orloff. If she knows you won't humor her outsize demands, she may stop making them - or she'll learn to look elsewhere.

3. Take a slow breath and center yourself when you sense her revving up. "An energy vampire succeeds only if she jangles you; if you stay calm, she'll go on to another victim," says Dr. Orloff. When the drama queen is your mother-in-law or your coworker-someone you absolutely can't escape - remembering to take long, deep breaths can be your secret stay-sane strategy.

Finally, try to appreciate her if you can. Most likely, she's entertaining to be around. And that's the thing: Having a relationship with a drama queen is like landing a front-row seat at a soap opera; someone else does the emotional labor - and you get to sit back and enjoy the show.

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Judith Orloff, MD is author of The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, upon which her articles are based. Dr. Orloff is a psychiatrist, an empath, and is on the UCLA Psychiatric Clinical Faculty. She synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality. Dr. Orloff also specializes in treating empaths and highly sensitive people in her private practice. Dr. Orloff’s work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, the Oprah Magazine and USA Today. She is a New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom, The Power of Surrender, Second Sight, Positive Energy, and Guide to Intuitive Healing. Connect with Judith on  Facebook and  Twitter. To learn more about empaths and her free empath support newsletter as well as Dr. Orloff's books and workshop schedule, visit her website.

 

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