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How to Know if You're an Empath

Judith Orloff - Monday, July 25, 2011

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People (2017 Sounds True)

Empaths are highly sensitive, finely tuned instruments when it comes to emotions. They feel everything, sometimes to an extreme, and are less apt to intellectualize feelings. Intuition is the filter through which they experience the world. Empaths are naturally giving, spiritually attuned, and good listeners. If you want heart, empaths have got it. Through thick and thin, they’re there for you, world-class nurturers.

The trademark of empaths is that they know where you’re coming from. Some can do this without taking on people’s feelings. However, for better or worse, others, like myself and many of my patients, can become angst-sucking sponges. This often overrides the sublime capacity to absorb positive emotions and all that is beautiful. If empaths are around peace and love, their bodies assimilate these and flourish. Negativity, though, often feels assaultive, exhausting. Thus, they’re particularly easy marks for emotional vampires, whose fear or rage can ravage empaths. As a subconscious defense, they may gain weight as a buffer. When thin, they’re more vulnerable to negativity, a missing cause of overeating explored in my book Positive Energy. Plus, an empath’s sensitivity can be overwhelming in romantic relationships; many stay single since they haven’t learned to negotiate their special cohabitation needs with a partner.

When empaths absorb the impact of stressful emotions, it can trigger panic attacks, depression, food, sex and drug binges, and a plethora of physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis from fatigue to agorophobia. Since I’m an empath, I want to help all my empath-patients cultivate this capacity and be comfortable with it.

Empathy doesn’t have to make you feel too much all the time. Now that I can center myself and refrain from shouldering civilization’s discontents, empathy continues to make me freer, igniting my compassion, vitality, and sense of the miraculous. To determine whether you’re an emotional empath, take the following quiz.


Ask yourself:

  • Have I been labeled as “too emotional” or overly sensitive?
  • If a friend is distraught, do I start feeling it too?
  • Are my feelings easily hurt?
  • Am I emotionally drained by crowds, require time alone to revive?
  • Do my nerves get frayed by noise, smells, or excessive talk?
  • Do I prefer taking my own car places so that I can leave when I please?
  • Do I overeat to cope with emotional stress?
  • Am I afraid of becoming engulfed by intimate relationships?
  • If you answer “yes” to 1-3 of these questions, you’re at least part empath. Responding “yes” to more than 3 indicates that you’ve found your emotional type.

    Recognizing that you’re an empath is the first step in taking charge of your emotions instead of constantly drowning in them. Staying on top of empathy will improve your self-care and relationships.

    Emotional Action Step. How To Find Balance

    Practice these strategies to center yourself.

  • Allow quiet time to emotionally decompress. Get in the habit of taking calming mini-breaks throughout the day. Breathe in some fresh air. Stretch. Take a short walk around the office. These interludes will reduce the excessive stimulation of going non-stop.
  • Practice guerilla meditation. To counter emotional overload, act fast and meditate for a few minutes. This centers your energy so you don’t take it on from others.
  • Define and honor your empathic needs. Safeguard your sensitivities. Here’s how.
  • If someone asks too much of you, politely tell them “no.” It’s not necessary to explain why. As the saying goes, “No is a complete sentence.”
  • If your comfort level is three hours max for socializing--even if you adore the people--take your own car or have an alternate transportation plan so you’re not stranded.
  • If crowds are overwhelming, eat a high-protein meal beforehand (this grounds you) and sit in the far corner of, say, a theatre or party, not dead center.
  • If you feel nuked by perfume, nicely request that your friends refrain from wearing it around you. If you can’t avoid it, stand near a window or take frequent breaks to catch a breath of fresh air outdoors.
  • If you overeat to numb negative emotions, practice the guerilla meditation mentioned above, before you’re lured to the refrigerator, a potential vortex of temptation. As an emergency measure, keep a cushion by the fridge so you can be poised to meditate instead of binge.
  • Carve out private space at home. Then you won’t be stricken by the feeling of too much togetherness. (Chapter 8 discusses nontraditional living settings compatible with an empath’s comfort zone.)
  • Over time, I suggest adding to this list to keep yourself covered. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel each time you’re on emotional overload. With pragmatic strategies to cope, empaths can have quicker retorts, feel safer, and their talents can blossom.


    Judith Orloff, MD is author of The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, upon which her articles are based. Dr. Orloff is a psychiatrist, an empath, and is on the UCLA Psychiatric Clinical Faculty. She synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality. Dr. Orloff also specializes in treating empaths and highly sensitive people in her private practice. Dr. Orloff’s work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, the Oprah Magazine and USA Today. She is a New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom, The Power of Surrender, Second Sight, Positive Energy, and Guide to Intuitive Healing. Connect with Judith on  Facebook and  Twitter. To learn more about empaths and her free empath support newsletter as well as Dr. Orloff's books and workshop schedule, visit her website.

    Paul M commented on 27-Jul-2011 01:21 PM
    This is a great article, Dr. Orloff, and something that could help others.
    Judy A. Kessinger commented on 30-Jul-2011 03:47 PM
    Hi Miss Orloff, Thank You for writing Positve Energy. I have now learned by reading this book why I have felt "different", taking on the energy of others, etc. I recognize and pay attention to my own intuition and know it is not me. I plan on reading your
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    Thank you!!! I now know what's "wrong" with me!
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    WOW now I know why I feel like I do! My mother use to say I would cry while watching the Lassie show yet when I got older she told me I was "acting" and called me Sarah Burnheart... I knew I wasn't acting and I told my friend before I moved in I cry at
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    lizzie commented on 22-Dec-2012 04:43 PM
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    For years as well I wondered why I was so sensitive. Why I'm able to sense things that others can't, why I don't like crowds, why I get physically sick when people talk about/when I see gruesome situations. I was extremely extatic to find this website and put a name to my being. My being an empath is a good reason why I want to be a psychologist; because I know how to heal people emotionally thanks to this gift. Sometimes it gets really uncomfortable, especially when I'm in crowds and have an overwhelming sense of everyone's emotions, and when I take on other people's problems, but I know just to spend more time to myself to calm all that down. This article really gave me a new outlook on how to control it all. It makes me feel like I have a little superpower or something haha
    terri commented on 24-Mar-2013 09:03 PM
    Thank you Judith. I answered yes to all of your questions. But I spend way too much time in my head and wonder if that is contradictory to being an empath? I guess I've lived from "the neck up" for most of my life and am now trying to reconnect with my body. I loved "second sight". Read it years ago. I've had "Intuitive healing" on my bookshelf (but haven't read it) for years and just felt drawn again to it a couple days ago. After the first few chapters I've had some interesting "instructional dreams" - telling me how to stay grounded while talking to my mother. And other interesting info has come too in single sentences in my sleep life. Thank you!
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    Thank you, I have been going through some extremely hard times and I had no reason to be an emotional wreck, but now I understand why. If I hadn't found this I don't know where I would be right now!
    Ernie commented on 21-May-2013 01:40 AM
    I am 33 and receive SS disability for diagnosed Bi-Polar disorder. Being an empath describes me to a T except for the over eating. The traits of an Indigo child also describe me. What about the lights when you close your eyes and continue to "see" with your actual eyes not your minds eye? I would appreciate any help...
    Anonymous commented on 25-Nov-2013 01:28 PM
    I always thought I was just grumpy in crowds and wondered why I felt the mood in the room when I walked in. When I am in a group with people or even just with one person sometimes I feel totally drained after and need quiet time to myself after to 'unwind' and re center myself. being a mother has certainly woken me up to this ability as well, I can sense my kids feelings pretty accurately and I know when my mother or husband is upset without even them telling me. This has happened around strangers as well. I thought it was me imagining things but some of my observations are dead accurate and it can be quite a pain in the rear end sometimes. I am a loner a lot of the time because crowds overwhelm me. So quiet time is essential in my daily routine and I find I can be back in tune with myself.
    Margaret commented on 26-Nov-2013 09:49 PM
    Thank you. All my life I have been labeled over emotional, but now I understand why. This explains why I can't sleep over at friends houses (I am a freshman in high-school). Hopefully now I can control this and improve my life.
    Michelle Paton commented on 15-Jan-2014 01:10 PM
    I have battled for years with a drug addiction I lived in the city for a while and then the drugs began I felt it helped me get through the day without loosing my mind just sitting in my apartment on the busiest Main Street in Melbourne Australia was too much but as things in the city go on all night I couldn't get rest either constantly awaken by the anxiety and emotions of others. A wall may stop you from seeing crowds it doesn't stop the emotions. I have one question though I have read a bit online about empaths and it fits me all too well I was put through so many medical tests for not daydreaming not paying attention at school not being normal my grandfather was the only one who accepted me for who i am and used to say to people that I dance to the beat of my own drum I wonder now if he knew I was an empath. Anyway my question can empaths feel positive feelings too as well as the negative such happiness joy a sense of excitement the feeling you get when you look forward to something ? Also when I feel anxiety is it normal for an empath to be able to workout what the anxiety is about even when in the beginning of the feeling they don't know why there anxious for example a number of times I have felt anxiety and I go through all the things going on for me that I may be anxious about when none of them feel like there the reason for my anxiety it is then that I look to those around me starting with the person I'm with after prying a little into there personal life I can usually pin point the exact reason I have had a sudden attack of anxiety I can do the same for myself if the reason is coming from me is this normal for an empath? Thanks for your fantastic article it has given me much enlightenment
    Kira commented on 23-Jun-2014 06:09 AM
    Thank you for this, I am 15years old and I can feel when my close friends/family are feeling negative and I just thought everyone could do it as well but I've found out that nobody else can and it is actually hard to wrap my head around tbh, thank you
    deanna commented on 05-Aug-2014 11:05 AM
    This answers so many lingering questions for me - talk about a lightbulb moment! I've often wondered why certain emotional vampires in my life continue coming to me and me only and now I know - empaths are natural targets! Working with a therapist now on learning how to protect myself. Thank you Dr. Orloff!
    Kevin commented on 18-Nov-2014 07:59 PM
    A little about myself I have always thought that I was just a person who liked to be alone. A person who just never got most people. In time I learned that I was just different from most people somehow, although I could never put my finger on exactly how. I learned to accept it. I am 43 now and I am good with it. However as I get older and a little wiser hopefully I find myself asking a lot of questions about why although I have tried my hardest I just can’t be quite as successful as I would like to be but not just for me but for my family. So I have begun to ask myself what is it about me that keeps me from doing what I want to do in life. I have always done this thing were I critique myself in every way and when I look at myself I have to admit that I have always felt like I am a person who is just way to emotional and I don’t mean in like a cry at the drop of a hat sort of way but more like I feel things very deeply and sometimes I don’t know why and I always feel like "Why do I always feel like I am so scatter brained". However when I am alone and thinking about what I want to do I have all the confidence and clarity of thought in the world. So to make a long story short I started to do some research and as I started to research I found my way to learning that I might be an empath quite a few of the traits really fit. For instance I thought I was just really good at deciphering body language but when I started to think about it I always seemed to know when someone is lying or holding back and people ARE ALWAYS!! talking to me about there problems and I can’t help it I feel like I am supposed to listen and help them if I can. In time I kind of learned that it is ok to kind of excuse myself from this sort of thing. Also I have always been a loner as I have said with not a lot of friends because most people just sort of get under my skin but its not just being alone. I also have the need to put myself in a mental state of what I can only describe as an incredible need to be centered. I do this by taking a hot bath preferably with scented candles if I can. The funny thing is that I feel like I think the best when I am in or around water. I know that sounds weird but that is how I feel. I consider myself to be a person who considers all the angles I don't want to be one of those people who JUST THINKS THAT THERE SOMETHING THERE NOT. So I have a lot of questions as some things seem to fit and some things don’t and I am a person who likes to be sure. So I guess I would like to know how can I know for sure and I would like to be able to talk with you a little more directly I am a truck driver so email works best for me if possible. I would very much like to know what you think.
    Anonymous commented on 03-Feb-2015 04:03 PM
    I didn't know I was an empath till yesterday I read an article about empath's abilities. I have said yes to most if not all of your quiz questions. I used to think I was just a moody person, I could be watching a movie and the old person can be the killer, murdering people and stuff and when someone hurts that old person my heart would literally crack. I don't know why. I don't like telling anyone my own feelings and I like being alone all the time. I'm 18 years old too. I don't like going outside and I always stay in my house my mom thinks I'm depressed and I was starting to think so too so I scoped the internet and found articles about empaths. I think I need serious help. I..I don't know how to deal with these feelings and I usually feel like I'm choking when my aunt and my cousin argue, (I'm living with them at the moment) see now I'm crying talking about this because I just didn't know that it was real, that I was not crazy and that this actually is something. My friends get mad with me because I don't want to go outside and hangout. My cousin forced me to go to a party with her and she lied to me, she had told me it was nice comfortable place and it wasn't, I literally walked outside and stood in the cold for 5 hours until she was ready to leave.
    Cheryl lynn "Shelly" commented on 15-Feb-2015 11:05 PM
    I'm beginning to feel i maybe an empath! Thanks for putting the information out there
    so that I might assimilate it
    Judith commented on 12-Aug-2015 05:36 PM
    Thank you for all your insightful comments about being an empath. Keep honoring your sensitivities!
    Anonymous commented on 22-Aug-2015 07:05 PM
    What happens when you answer all questions Yes
    Dawna commented on 03-Sep-2015 10:13 AM
    I started on the empath/HSP learning curve a few years back, answering yes to all questions except sensitivity to smells. I spent a lifetime responding to the suffering of others both on the job as a nurse and off the job as a rescuer, and unable to recognize myself or my own needs by the time I was 50. After I took a bad crash, the most disheartening lesson was just how alone I was in life despite all the accolades thrown my way for being there for people. I've become socially disconnected as I focus on better self-care, feeling my own self-worth, and recognizing my own needs. Years into this, the world still feels very daunting as i continue to learn about the destructive relationships between empaths and narcissists/sociopaths, but the boundaries are getting better and my circle of healthier supportive people is growing. There is still so much to learn regarding how to be out in the world as an empath, how to transform my life, and how to be emotionally well. The process has been very painful, and I am so very grateful for your resources, Judith, thank-you.
    Susan commented on 16-Oct-2015 08:11 PM
    Reading this, I have to wonder how much the categories of "empath" and "Aspie" overlap. I scored all on the quiz above, and have before been called an empath by people who study it. But I always attribute many of the traits to my having Aspergers; for example, crowds, certain persistent noises, and emotional overstimulation, exhaust me and prove an almost constant challenge.
    ven commented on 15-Jan-2016 10:42 AM
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    Debs commented on 16-Feb-2016 01:32 PM
    I have known since I was a child but never knew
    There was a word to describe the way I am
    I am so in tune with myself and others and at times the pain
    Can be unbearable but I always said it was a gift or curse
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    Still growing
    Anonymous commented on 01-Mar-2016 02:27 PM
    I honestly thought that I was going crazy. I'd shift moods so quickly for no reason. Eventually I discovered it was related to someone I know feeling that way, even at great distances. I can... tell when someone's lying, but I always told myself I was just being paranoid, I was just being anxious, I must be crazy and I should simply take deep breaths and focus.

    I don't know if this is what I am, but I have this intense feeling... that I'm at the very least onto something. Thank you for the meditation tips, I hope it's a step in the right direction.
    suzanne commented on 11-Jun-2016 12:32 PM
    I love this article because now I know I am a empath. I have had a lot of paranormal stuff happen to me in my life. The paranormal stuff has haunted me throughout my life.The latest of which my older sis died. I actually was feeling her leave this world and she lived 3 hours away from me. I felt everything but had no idea what was going on at the time My stomach hurt so bad i was doubled over in pain I turned to my my lizard and asked it, I feel like i am having a heart attack, an what the hell is this I am feeling? At 4:30 my time she died of a heart attack and she woke me up. She died 7:30 her time which was 4:30 my time. That is when I was woke up, weird I know but that did happen. I was feeling so much energy in the room I was terrified. I miss her horrible. I also take my car every where with me so I can make a quick exit because i get anxiety. I ca also tell and read people if they do not like me and stay away from them due to I get drained so bad with their negativity. I used to have dreams of the future but do not get them as much any more. My ex husband did not believe me until I had a dream of something happening to him and he laughed it off I told him about the dream told him he was in pain holding his arm in a door way and he was moaning well after I told him we eneded up the weekend going to the drive in movie I wanted to see another movie and he wanted to see something else well we got into this horrible fight we get home he punches the wall and fell to the ground in pain looked at his wrist and said i think i just broke my hand he got up went into the doorway leaned in the door way and he started moaning and asked me to get his coat to go to the emergency room and as I picked up the coat i said oh my god this was the warning this was the dream of what would happen and his mouth jut dropped. He was in shock. I told him see i told ya. Just recently I had a dream of the statue of liberty with whole bunch of symbols in it and not sure when that will happen but it will and can not get into legit of it. I know it is crazy but I can easily read people. I can tell how they are feeling and when one is crying I feel it. I love animals and go nuts when I do not have any. I do not feel sane without my snakes and cats. I am currently going to school to be an entomologist because that is my calling i have known this since I started to walk. I just let other things get in the way before but now finally back at school.I have a deep connection with nature I am also a bee keeper Love watching them. I want to know if the dream part of empathy is pat of being a empath ? if not than what is it that I m doing?
    Tammy commented on 15-Jul-2016 08:17 AM
    Just reading this blog made me cry. :) Thank you so much for your insight. I feel exactly like all these other people who have commented. I thought I was going crazy, too! There is so much hate in the world right now, and that is what brought me to this blog. I need help shielding myself because yesterday I stayed in and ate junk food (literally ALL day!). Thank you for giving me the nudge I needed to take control.
    Anonymous commented on 01-Oct-2016 12:51 PM
    Is there a cure for this curse?
    Ellena commented on 14-Oct-2016 05:40 PM
    Great article. Really appreciate it for sharing with us. While I was doing a research for the piece of chapter, I foundthis web page dealing with empath situations from a different angle

    Best of luck!
    lacey commented on 22-Oct-2016 10:18 PM
    I'm having a hard time i am 25 and just discovered I'm an empath I've been called overly sensitive and too emtional or I have to separate myself from crowds I feel how my friends and family feel when they're upset and my feelings get hurt so easily my husband calls me a baby I've had unknown anxiety attacks and being extremely stressed and paranoid a lot
    Steven commented on 31-Oct-2016 06:14 AM
    Thanks for sharing,
    It's interesting to gain knowledge of oneself, liberating to say the less. I enjoy the company of my friends and they do too. But there are times when my energies are so depleted and i just can't be in a social set up because i feel depleted and having no energies to share. In such moments im withdrawn, and if with my friends turn into a passive listener.Sometimes this causes problems in my friendships because i become 'different'. The hardest question from my friends is usually "what's wrong?" And most of the time the answer i give doesn't seem satisfactory.
    Kate commented on 05-Nov-2016 05:03 PM
    How do I deal with being an Empath and in high school? I can not cut my classes short if I am stressed. I can not get up and walk around when I want. I can not tune out because I might miss somthing. I can not dictate what my parents buy for snacks and food. I can not take the weekends to relax and distress because my parents force me to go to events or I have enough homework to last all year. What can I do?
    Solly commented on 04-Jan-2017 04:13 AM
    Thanks article was very help ful .I would like to to correspond with you for some personal level
    Cheryl commented on 04-Jan-2017 09:03 PM
    Oh my.....I am actually in shock. Sitting here numb. I did not know there were others that felt everything in extremes.
    Wow....oh wow.
    Heather commented on 18-Feb-2017 09:58 PM
    Wow. A friend described me as an empath this week and so here I am, reading this. It explains so much. I was very worried about myself and now I feel incredibly empowered.
    Anonymous commented on 19-Feb-2017 12:00 PM
    hi dr Orloff ,thanks for the article, i found similarity between an empath and passive agresive people, which is can't say no, always willing to what other want.shy, and other thing

    so i was wondering, is an empath people also can be pasive agresive ?
    Joshua Prewitt commented on 28-Feb-2017 02:25 AM
    I think this is interesting considering that if you look up the word empath, the dictionary says it's science fiction but gives a definition anyway. That shows to me that the psychological and scientific community don't really respect or recognize it unless I'm grossly mistake. I'm very interested in this sort of this g and like to prove them wrong. Incidentally, it is along my career path to study similar subjects and pursuits. But I'm not sure how to get from here to there
    Mickey Gearhead commented on 26-Mar-2017 05:18 PM
    How does an empathy deal with neglect and abuse?
    Anonymous commented on 30-Mar-2017 03:50 PM
    So I'm only 11 and my mother believed in wicca when a demon came or whatever (they didn't tell me about it) and she taught me stuff about empathy. So later she just stopped talking about it and so I was left with a couple of questions. But later I was researching empaths and found the traits exactly like me. I mentioned it to my mom and the second I started talking she cut me off and said no one in this house is an empath. So now she is spiritual and stuff but I wasn't sure I believed her. But this cleared up lots of things thanks!!
    Anonymous commented on 14-Apr-2017 06:26 PM
    I herd about his on Coast to Coast and checked out this artical.I now know who I am,Thank You !
    Anonymous commented on 15-Jun-2017 07:50 PM
    I have no doubt there are a great many Empaths walking the Earth. How can I determine if a person is a true Empath, or just playing a good game?

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