Ask Dr. Orloff

How can I stop aruging with my wife?

Question: Dear Dr. Orloff,

I love and adore my wife but we keep having huge arguments and now she wants to leave me. How can I control my feelings and not fight with everyone around me?
Pretoria, South Africa

Answer: Dear Johann,

It is very important that you learn to calm and center yourself before you talk to your wife or anyone around you. I suggest that you practice the 3 minute heart meditation in Emotional Freedom where you breathe, center yourself, put your hand over your heart, and calm down. Then you can approach people from a loving centered place. In addition it can be very helpful for you to get support from a therapist to help you work though your anger and deal with your wife in the most effective way.
All the best,
Dr. Orloff

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