Ask Dr. Orloff

How can I surrender a negative body image and my low self-esteem?

Question: Dear Dr. Orloff,
I love your great and helpful book Emotional Freedom! I can relate because I am a very sensitive person and pick up on people's energy. I am 51 years old and I am still struggling with excepting my looks,body, etc. I'm not sure why, but I have low self esteem especially about my looks. People have told me I look okay, but I never thought so. I just want to be comfortable in my own skin. Now the I'm getting older the issue seems to be getting worse. Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for all your great work.
Forrest Hills, NY

Answer: Dear James,
What a powerful and honest question! In The Ecstasy of Surrender I discuss the importance of surrendering our tendency to compare ourselves to others and how to lovingly put your eyes back on your self. Self-love is the hardest of all. In the surrender book I stress how divine our body is but we must let go of society's propaganda about what is beautiful. Your body is your sacred temple that temporarily houses the spirit. It is your "advantage: to being on Earth and is radiant no matter what the shape or size. Pray each morning to be able to love your body and yourself. Pray to surrender any beliefs about aging and body that don't serve you. Pray to be able to celebrate your mind-body-and spirit You can do it!
Keep surrendering throughout your life!
Dr. Orloff

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