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How do I know if I should surrender to my quirky passions?

Question: Dear Dr Orloff,

I'm reading your book 'The Ecstasy of Surrender' and one question popped up when reading 'Surrendering to a New Paradigm: The Dance between Destiny and Will’. How can I know that an instinct is right and will lead me to real success? For example, I'm a highly educated woman who has two master degrees in both medicine and IT, and I've worked in hospital then government but never felt like the jobs. Lately, my husband and I entered swinger club lifestyle and I found I loved dancing there (NOT SWINGING AT ALL). I know it's crazy but I think maybe my interest is to become a stripper to dance wildly and truly? Is that insane???
Toronto, ON

Answer: Dear Francis,

It sounds like your sensual, lusty, body oriented, goddess part is crying out to become more balanced with your intellectual part. Yes, dance, it is freeing for the soul. Dancing can set you free. But not only stripping. You might want to experiment with free-form dance, or Gabrielle Roth’s ecstatic dance which weaves spirituality into movement. Yes follow your passion to dance and surrender to it as long as it is healthy for your mind, body, and spirit!
All the best

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