Ask Dr. Orloff

How do I make my relationship more physically satisfying?

Question: Dear Dr. Orloff,

What does it mean when every aspect of ones intimate relationship is pretty good, yet physically I am not connecting in a sexually satisfying way with my partner. But he makes me feel secure and important? Confused.
Sydney, Australia

Answer: Dear Cassandra,

It's beautiful to have an emotional attraction to a mate and to feel secure around this person. Sexual attraction is all about energy and you both can work with that. You will need to learn about the energies of the body and how to activate them. It's fun. Tantra plus more. Be playful. Try new techniques of touching and moving sexual energy, then connecting it to the heart. I suggest that you both would enjoy the the section on Sexual Wellness in my book Guide to Intuitive Healing.
All the best,

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