How can an “Empath” and an “Intellectual” have a good relationship?


How can an “Empath” and an “Intellectual” have a good relationship?


An empath and an intellectual can have a good relationship. As a sensitive empath, it’s very important that you set clear limits and boundaries with your girlfriend and would recommend reading my book, The Empath’s Survival Guide for strategies to honor your needs. As I discuss in another book, Emotional Freedom she is the emotional type called the Intellectual. She naturally prefers staying in her head whereas you tend to be more empathic and intuitive. Intellectuals are bright, articulate, incisive analysts who tend towards a cerebral approach to emotions. When stress hits, they often take refuge in their head as the first line of coping. Their world is powerfully filtered through rational thought. Picture the highbrow New Yorker literary scene in the Sixties: Gore Vidal and John Updike, thinkers who heatedly wrestled with opinions and ideas. Intellectuals can also be scientists, teachers, housewives, anyone who’s predominantly focused on mental pursuits, Ivy League pedigreed or not. Surrendering worry is very important to maintain peace of mind. A good relationship is based on respect and trust. As an empath you have special needs and require quiet time. Talk to your girlfriend about your needs and have her also read The Empath’s Survival Guide then you both can find a creative way to find balance.

Wishing you light and balance,


Judith Orloff, MD is a New York Times bestselling author with the upcoming book The Genius of Empathy: Practical Skills to Heal Yourself, Your Relationships and the World (Foreword by the Dalai Lama). She has also written The Empath’s Survival Guide and Thriving as an Empath, which offers daily self-care tools for sensitive people. She integrates the pearls of conventional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, empathy, energy medicine, and spirituality. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and highly sensitive people in her private practice and online internationally. Her work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, Oprah Magazine, the New York Times and USA Today. Dr. Orloff has spoken at Google-LA, TEDx U.S. and TEDx Asia. More information about Dr. Orloff’s Empathy Training Programs for businesses, The Empath Survival Guide Online Course and speaking schedule at

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