How do you live with someone who brings your energy down?


Question: I do activities every day to bring my energy up, but don’t look forward to going home. How do you protect yourself in such close quarters or is the only solution to move out of the home?

Answer: Great question. In “The Empath’s Survival Guide” I go into detail about how to not absorb the stress of family members or others that you live with. It may be challenging at times for empaths to live with other people. They often take solace in their own company and require lots of alone time. So, when you live with a challenging person take alone time as much as you can where you can go into another room and close the door. There you can meditate and come back to yourself.

In addition, practice breathing out stress and negative energy. Also practice the “bubble technique” from “The Empath’s Survival Guide” where you visualize a protective bubble around you. If it is possible to talk to this person about boundaries please do so. For instance, “I love and appreciate you but it would be so wonderful if you can give me more quiet time when I come home” or ask them lovingly to limit their talking because you are needing silence. Please check out all the suggestions in the book to help you with this situation. If someone is abusive, it may be the healthiest decision to move out. In general, consider all the factors and listen to your intuition so you can make the best decision.

With love,

Judith Orloff, MD is a New York Times bestselling author with the upcoming book The Genius of Empathy: Practical Skills to Heal Yourself, Your Relationships and the World (Foreword by the Dalai Lama). She has also written The Empath’s Survival Guide and Thriving as an Empath, which offers daily self-care tools for sensitive people. She integrates the pearls of conventional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, empathy, energy medicine, and spirituality. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and highly sensitive people in her private practice and online internationally. Her work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, Oprah Magazine, the New York Times and USA Today. Dr. Orloff has spoken at Google-LA, TEDx U.S. and TEDx Asia. More information about Dr. Orloff’s Empathy Training Programs for businesses, The Empath Survival Guide Online Course and speaking schedule at

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