How do I show empathy when I’m arguing with someone?
Answer:
Empathy is really important to have during arguments! Empathy can mean offering a loved one a kinder but more specific response such as, “I can hear you better if you phrase it this way” rather than criticizing or attacking them. For the other person, it may mean realizing, “My way is not working but I’m willing to learn.” Or, at least, you can agree to disagree on an issue until there is an opening for a breakthrough. Sometimes empathy means allowing space for your differences rather than belaboring a point. You can also practice this affirmation from my book, The Genius of Empathy:
An Affirmation to Center Yourself During Arguments
“I will not blurt out ultimatums, insults or make important decisions when I’m overwhelmed.”
Thank you for your great question.
Have fun practicing empathy!
Judith