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Are You In A Relationship With A Victim?
If you typically get drawn into fixing other people’s problems, chances are, you’ve attracted numerous victims into your life. The victim grates on you with a poor-me attitude and is allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. To identify if you are in relationship with a victim, take the following quiz.
|1. Does this person often appear inconsolably oppressed or depressed?||Yes||No|
|2. Are you burned out by his or her neediness?||Yes||No|
|3. Does he or she always blame “bad luck” or the unfairness of others for her problems?||Yes||No|
|4. Do you screen your calls or say you’re busy in order to dodge his or her litany of complaints?||Yes||No|
|5. Does his or her unrelenting negativity compromise your positive attitude?||Yes||No|
How to interpret this quiz
- If you had 0 yeses – Either you arn’t in a relationship with a victim; or you are coping with this personality in a successful, healthy way.
- If you had 1 yes – The beginning signs of being involved with a victium are there. To clear the air, it could be a great time to address the main issue related to his or her victimhood. Then your emotional freedom can be preserved and your relationship can remain healthy.
- If you had 2 yeses – You are in a relationship with someone who has some definite victim tendencies. Your emotional freedom is becoming increasingly compromised by his or her poor me attitude.
- If you had 3 yeses – You are in a relationship with someone who has moderate victim tendencies. This can make you want to avoid interacting.
- If you had 4 yeses – You are in a relationship with someone who has strong victim tendencies. It’s likely that a victim is violating your emotional freedom but you may be reluctant to speak up to improve the situation.
- If you had 5 yeses – You are in a relationship with a victim. Interacting with this person can cause you to be irritated or drained. You are in a great position now to learn how to set kind but firm boundaries to create a healthier interaction.
This quiz is excerpted from Emotional Freedom by Judith Orloff MD
(Learn more about combating emotional vampires in Chapter 6)