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Is Your Child an Empath?
Knowing that your child is an empath is the first step toward bringing out the best in him or her. Then you can support your son’s and daughter’s sensitivities as an expression of their excellence, compassion, and depth. To determine if your child is an empath, take the following assessment.
|1. Does he or she feel things deeply?||Yes||No|
|2. Does he or she get over-simulated by people, crowds, noise, or stress?||Yes||No|
|3. Does he or she have strong reactions to sad or frightening scenes in books or movies?||Yes||No|
|4. Does he or she want to escape and hide from family gatherings because there’s too much|
|5. Does he or she feel “different” than other kids or complain about not fitting in?||Yes||No|
|6. Is he or she a good listener and compassionate with others?||Yes||No|
|7. Does he or she surprise you with intuitive comments about others or yourself?||Yes||No|
|8. Does he or she have a strong connection to nature, plants, animals, or stuffed animals?||Yes||No|
|9. Does he or she require a lot of time alone rather than playing with other kids?||Yes||No|
|10. Does he or she take on a friend’s stress or upset?||Yes||No|
|11. Does he or she take on your own or other people’s emotions or stress—and act out when you’re angry, upset or depressed?||Yes||No|
|12. Does he or she have one best friend or a few good friends rather then a large social network?||Yes||No|
How to interpret this quiz:
Here’s how to score this assessment.
- 10-12 yeses indicate this child has extremely strong empathic traits.
- 7-9 yeses indicates strong empathic traits.
- 4-6 yeses indicate moderate empathic traits.
- 1-3 yeses indicate some empathic traits.
- Zero yeses indicate that the child is not operating primarily as an empath.
No matter where your child is on this spectrum, he or she would benefit from being taught to honor his or her specific sensitivities.
The New Generation of Indigo Children
In the last decade, much has been said about “Indigo Children,” whom I believe are a type of empathic children with strikingly developed intuitive abilities and insight into people and world situations. They are the opposite of the self-absorbed, instant gratification generation who have a large presence in our culture today. Indigos are a great new wave of children with more awakened intuition, sensitivities, clarity of purpose, and interest in changing the planet for the good. They’re often described as “old souls” who have a profound grasp of the human condition. Some say they have lived many lifetimes to attain that knowledge. One patient describes her seventeen-year-old daughter Anna as an indigo child. She had prophetic dreams, drew “angels” in her coloring book since she was young, and saw various spirit visitors in their home. She could also intuitively read people and know what they were deeply feeling. Now, Anna wants to go into a profession to help stop global warming, a phenomenon which hurts her soul because she says, “I feel the pain of how climate change is threatening our Earth.”
Indigo children have unique needs that require parents and teachers to change how they treat them. Being sensitive to their gifts will help them achieve balance in their lives and avoid frustration. Indigo children bring the promise of a higher consciousness and a way of perceiving what happens politically, socially, and economically. As empaths, they bring the possibility for a better world with more mutual understanding and harmony in our personal and global relationships. If you have such exceptional children, nurture their unique gifts.