What is an energy vampire? To learn coping skills to deal with energy vampires, get my PDF “Energy Vampires Survival Guide” here.
What is an energy vampire and how can you recognize one? Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It’s important to be surrounded by supportive, heart-centered people who make us feel safe and secure. It’s equally important to pinpoint the energy vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, leech our energy.
Positive energy in others can be rejuvenating. For instance, you’re nervous about a job interview, but the minute you meet your prospective boss you relax. He’s so calm and welcoming, you calm down too. Or perhaps you have a good friend around whom you always feel loved. These energy-givers are people to treasure. The more you surround yourself with positive people, the more you will attract them. In your life, these are people you must gravitate towards. Having a circle of positive people around you can also repel energy vampires. Positive attracts positive. Negative attracts negative. So, your conscious actions in choosing relationships can make a huge difference in your energy level and the quality of your life!
In contrast, energy vampires exude negative energy that drains you. Energy vampires range from the intentionally malicious ones to those who are oblivious to their effect. Some are overbearing and obnoxious; others are friendly and charming. For example, you’re at a party talking to a perfectly nice person, but suddenly you’re nauseous or weak. Or how about the co-worker who drones on about how she broke up with her boyfriend for the tenth time? Eventually, she feels better, but you’re spent. The bottom line is that on a subtle energy level these people suck you dry.
Exercise To Identify Energy Vampires: Take an Inventory of People in Your Life
Ask yourself: Does this person generally give me energy or sap it? How do I feel when I’m around this person? Do I notice my happiness level goes up or do I get in a bad mood or feel sick? Do I look forward to seeing this person or do I dread it> Specifically identify the energy vampires in your life, and begin to evaluate ones you’d like to limit contact with or eliminate. It’s very important to strategize how to be with energy vampires and the time you are willing to spend with them, if that is absolutely necessary. In addition, plan at least one complete afternoon with people who give off positive energy and avoid energy vampires who drain you. . Notice how this beneficially affects your physical and emotional well-being. Sensitive people including empaths thrive around loving, positive people. It brightens their mood and make them feel good in their bodies.
Who are the energy vampires? There can be many variations in your life. Types of energy vampires include The Narcissist, someone who is self-absorbed and has empathy deficient disorder. The Victim, someone who wears you out with their wining and lack of willingness to find solutions. The Passive Aggressive, someone who is angry with a smile and gets you with jabs that you con’t don’t see coming. The Rageaholic, someone who dumps anger on you and spreads toxic energy in their general vicinity. The Drama Queen or King is someone who wears you out with exhausting drams. Hint: You never want to ask her or him how they are doing! In Emotional Freedom and the Empath’s Survival Guide I discuss energy vampires and strategies to combat them. This is particularly essential if you are an empath or highly sensitive person who tends to be very vulnerable to an energy vampire’s draining abilities. So, in summary, it is very important to learn to identify energy vampires in your life and then develop a specific plan to deal with each one so you are not taken by surprise! Then you can own the moment and protect your energy from being depleted!
Energy vampires only have power over you if you let them. By taking control of this situation–this means identifying them and developing a plan for each one of them–you can have empowered relationships on your own terms. Many people become victims of energy vampire because they are unprepared. So, you are one step ahead when you can consciously and mindfully address this important issue in your life and have your tools ready to go when they are needed.
To learn strategies for dealing with energy vampires purchase The Energy Vampire Survival Guide PDF.